" YOU CAN'T EVEN DO ONE SINGLE THING RIGHT! DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY HARDSHIPS I'VE HAD TO ENDURE TO BRING YOU UP?"....We are often hearing things along these lines from our parents.Everyday,at some point we are angry;sometimes, too angry. And that's when we make matter worse.If you have a sibling,like I do, then getting angry will become a habit. And if you are trying to tutor your sibling, then getting angry is simply inevitable.I try to control anger,and trust me, its really really hard.But if you can, the rewards are substantial! So here are a few tricks that you can use:
1.Take a 'timeout.' Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.Just do not react instantly,because everyone knows you will regret it seconds later.
2.Get some space. Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.
3.Get some exercise. Think that the football is the person you are angry with and then bend it like Beckham! Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.Or even video games! You can't imagine how first person shooter helps in this case! Shooting madly at virtually everyone is an awesome way to release your anger!
4. Identify solutions to the situation. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
5.Use 'I' statements when describing the problem. This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." This is actually a very good political and diplomatic solution.
6.Don't hold a grudge. If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.FORGIVE AND FORGET!
7.Use humor to release tensions. Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.Lame jokes are also welcome! Just make sure its isn't so lame that the other person gets angry back at you!
8.Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.Metallica's St.Anger might help you.
So, next time your mom yells at you, give her an idiotic smile. Hum a song and prance off in a jubilant mood.I'm sure your mom would crack a smile....
1.Take a 'timeout.' Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.Just do not react instantly,because everyone knows you will regret it seconds later.
2.Get some space. Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.
3.Get some exercise. Think that the football is the person you are angry with and then bend it like Beckham! Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.Or even video games! You can't imagine how first person shooter helps in this case! Shooting madly at virtually everyone is an awesome way to release your anger!
4. Identify solutions to the situation. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
5.Use 'I' statements when describing the problem. This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." This is actually a very good political and diplomatic solution.
6.Don't hold a grudge. If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.FORGIVE AND FORGET!
7.Use humor to release tensions. Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.Lame jokes are also welcome! Just make sure its isn't so lame that the other person gets angry back at you!
8.Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.Metallica's St.Anger might help you.
So, next time your mom yells at you, give her an idiotic smile. Hum a song and prance off in a jubilant mood.I'm sure your mom would crack a smile....
....well it's quite cool.......nd tell me bout the pain of a sibling. i know it better than the lot a lil guy can do...:P.....good attempt listin ways notto get angry. btw shuld've tried on ur self first...:P:P
ReplyDeletecool work!specially the naming.
ummm.....Who is this by the way? Being anonymous dusnt help much ....
ReplyDelete...erm...this piece was supposed to be read. and it's READ eventually.....and even complimentd as well...i thought "identity" didn matter much..unless i'm sum terrorist, or even .."just -a-roam-about"..
ReplyDeletewell, i just like to talk to a person with a face. But hey,thanks for reading it.am appreciating it.
ReplyDelete